Today I will revisit a previous NAS topic which I did not write about last week.
How do we gracefully and graciously handle rejection?
How do you avoid falling into self-doubt or bitterness?
How can you help or encourage others who have gone through rejection?
“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody.” … [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.” Henri J.M. Nouwen
Hello on this wonderful Wednesday,
I hope you are doing well. I’ve missed blogging and need to catch up on your lovely blogs. I’m a day late to the link up, but I suppose better now than never. Rejection is something I struggle with, and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Whether it’s not being offered a job you hoped and prayed for, or the loss of a relationship, being turned down is a bitter pill to swallow. However, there is hope despite how we may feel after being rejected. Through my experiences, I’ve learned when God says “no” to something or someone, it’s for a very good reason that we may not fully understand at the time. It may be to protect our heart from further hurt and loss.
I’m also learning through the pain of rejection it provides opportunities for self-growth or is an avenue to learn valuable life lessons of detachment from the world and its empty promises.
Although we often portray rejection as a terrible act, it isn’t all bad. For me, I have learned to depend on my relationship first and foremost with God since as flawed humans we can let each other down.
Here are a few tidbits of encouragement I can offer anyone who is going through rejection:
As difficult as it may be, try to not take rejection personally. Try your best to find something positive in a difficult situation.
Remember despite how you may feel, you are not alone. If you ever need to talk/vent, I am willing to listen.
I hope for anyone who is or has faced rejection in a relationship this quote helps
“Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.” Shannon L. Alder
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