“God help me to see the good in the “not knowing” . . . the joy in the “in-between” . . . the meaning in the “meantime.” -Mandy Hale
Beautiful Uncertainty: Singleness, Surrender, and Stepping Out on Faith,
Have you ever in a day devoured an emotional-arousing book which as soon as you turn the first pages you knew it was meant for you? Well, that’s how I felt about this friendly down-to-earth read. Mandy is a young single woman who stepped out on faith and took a chance ministering to other single women through social media and previous bestselling books. Though the chapters were quite brief, I appreciated that each chapter concluded with a short relatable prayer. I gleaned a lot of encouragement through Mandy’s, aka the Single Woman’s life experiences. I could relate to her familiarity with what it’s like to leave an abusive relationship and the work it takes to regain your stability after believing so many lies.
Not only does she openly share her weaknesses in waiting, she also puts an emphasis on putting and loving Jesus first which is of upmost importance in any relationship. Whether it’s having a coffee chat with God by the fire, or listening to Him in the silence, Mandy encourages her readers to give our burdens over to the one who knows us and loves us more than any human.
Throughout the chapters we are introduced to Mandy’s struggle to define whether or not in her abusive relationship or breakups “Was I your option while you were my choice?”
This question along with many others are ones we as single women have to find answers to, especially in the wake of unhealthy relationships or after heartbreaks. While reading this book I felt a myriad of emotions—happiness, sadness, vulnerability and positively challenged to grow from my past in order to look to my future. Though I do not have all the answers and I’m aware that risk is a key part of any type of relationship, what I certainly know is freely loving God is worth every single feeling of uncertainty or doubt, because as I think Augustus Waters said in one of my all-time favorite reads, “It’s a beautiful life…”
For my fellow single ladies, happily step out there, be confident, hold your head high, independent while never fearing being dependent on our heavenly author who writes the best at times skewed life stories, because though we may not see the mess in the message, we have to keep on keeping on.
“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soulmate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re going to fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”
Until next time,