“20 years from now you will be disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
social work is big on discussing the progression of sessions with our clients. After receiving and accepting my dream job offer last week, I have been pondering the concept of transitions. While they are not always easy, having something exciting and new to look forward to is invigorating. I am looking forward to bringing my compassion for social work and a positive philosophy of blindness to those I will be helping. I’m sure they will help me in more ways than I can help them. So, back on topic.
Sadly, I am facing some difficult endings in this process of moving on. Life seems to be all about saying yes to something else and no to another. Over the past six months, I’ve been working with a wonderful, challenging peer support specialist who has been such a positive influence in my mental health recovery. Whether it was eating disorder issues or mood regulation struggles, she has always been there to help me through the ups and downs. Once I begin working, our time will be sadly coming to an end. However, this is such an important lesson for me to learn and grow from.
While I can be flexible, I’m the type who likes routine and at times I struggle with change when it comes to the endings of relationships. If you are also struggling with letting go of someone or something tangible or invisible, let’s do our best to keep in mind that although it would be ideal, we can’t have the best of both worlds. Saying yes to one thing is saying no to another.
Saying no is not always a negative; so much growth and change can happen during this period of transition. I’ll use my struggle with eating disorder recovery as an example.
Although I feel torn and in some small ways want to still hold onto my eating disorder, I know logically I must work hard to let it go. It has never brought me anything positive or profitable. Rather it has ruined my life, wrecked relationships and stunted my social growth. Learning to say yes to unknowns with this new job venture is saying no to the lies of anorexia. After all these years of relapses, I have finally come to the realization anorexia and freely living life cannot coexist.
Whatever you may be struggling with today, know first of all you are not alone, and secondly, once you give up your vice, while it may not be easy at first, good things will come your way. Keep on keeping on, and if for a time you have to fake it until you make it, then so be it.
We can do this!!
Until next time,